Developing Your Conversation Skills

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Posted by Jacob | Posted on 10-02-2010

Category : Conversation help

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Knowing how to deal with failure should be an important thing to learn when it comes to attracting women. My advice is to get used to failure and learn from each experience. In fact by taking the time to look back on your interactions with women you’ll be able to assess what went well and what didn’t go so good which will help you improve.

Like everything else you learn in life there is a certain skill to attracting wome. While some are naturals at it most sadly have to develop this skill.

One of the most important skills you need to learn to carry is the ability to hold a conversation. If you can’t hold a conversation , how can you build attraction?

So here’s a few different things that will help you build your conversation skills:

  • Work on telling her interesting stories. (again if you can’t think of anything see the link above)
  • Know how to project yourself in a slightly cocky and funny way when you’re talking to her.
  • Learn how to tease a woman the right way and spark attraction.

Just like anything it will take a little while to get this right so don’t give up if things don’t go great at first.

The best way to talk to a woman from my personal experience is to use flattery. Now a lot of guys use this the wrong way, don’t say she has a nice body or eyes or any of physical characteristic’s. This shows her you’re only her appearance and not “what she’s about”.

The best way to use flattery is to comment on something she can control. A good example would be to say the way she dresses. When complimenting her on an outfit, it;ll flatter her taste in clothing and demonstrate an approval of her style of clothing. It’s also a subtle way of telling her you’re attracted to her, it’s telling her she’s attractive without coming out and saying it.

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Leaving Her Breathless

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Posted by Jacob | Posted on 23-01-2010

Category : Flirting

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Being the type of guy that can leave women breathless seems almost untrue and only a few guys have the ability to do it. This isn’t necessarily true, though it can seem this way at times. One thing that I notice regular when I have a conversation or a discussion with a guy that just doesn’t seem to be having an easy time attracting women is that kind of live in a box of sorts.

What do I mean by this?

Many guys kind of have a standard view on what it is that attracts a woman and if they don’t have those qualities or they don’t fit that image, they assume that they cannot attract a woman or that certain kinds of women are off limits to them.

If you want to be the kind of guy that leaves a woman breathless, then you have to snap out of that kind of thinking immediately! It’s not going to do you any good to think that you are not good enough or you don’t have the ability to attract women and that somehow other guys do.

Here are a few tips that should show you how to leave a woman breathless:

1. Women are attracted to men that have a healthy amount of self esteem.

If you do trap yourself into the box, thinking that you don’t have the money or the looks or the body type to attract women, then you definitely need a quick boost to your self esteem. Most men don’t want to admit that they could use a boos to their self esteem, but if you want things to improve, then you have to get past this.

2. You have to be able to take a woman by SURPRISE.

This is where the average kind of guy actually does have the upper hand. It’s much easier for you to take a woman by surprise if you are not the best looking or the richest guy she meets. How do you take a woman by surprise? It’s easy. Just do the opposite of what the other guys do. If she’s really good looking, then she is probably used to men that kind of dote on her for no reason. Just being the kind of man that actually makes her “earn” your attention will take her by surprise.

3. You have to learn how to “sell” yourself.

Most guys don’t think of it this way, but when you first meet a woman, you have to sell yourself. Of course, this is not for money, but this is to show her who you are. See, when you are able to confidently approach a woman and immediately get her talking, and get her flirting, you are in a sense selling yourself. She’s going to see you in a much better light and you will immediately raise your odds at getting her. And the better job you do, the more likely it is that she will be left feeling breathless.

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An Easy Way to Get Her Attracted

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Posted by Jacob | Posted on 14-01-2010

Category : What Attracts Women

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How do you get a woman to “want” you?

Well this is a question I hear a lot from people. Many guys who I talk to have this problem. They meet attractive girls, but don’t know how to create that emotional spark and they miss out on getting the girl because of it.

Luckly the answer is pretty simple. In order to get a girl to want you, attraction must be created. Now to be honest there are a ton of ways you can create attraction. Most of them involve the proper kind of body language and the use of cocky/funny techniques.

But there is an easy and effective way you can make a woman instantly want you when you meet her. It’s simple, all you have to do is:

Accuse HER of hitting on you!

Here’s what I mean…

The next time you’re talking to a woman, look for specific comments or body language traits which can be misconstrued. Then make a joke about how she is showing signs of wanting you. If you can say this comment in a funny & playful manner, you’ll create an entire dynamic about how she’s trying to hit on you.

Then during certain points in the conversation, you should mention how she REALLY likes you and is being obvious about her attempts “to seduce you”. Furthermore you can tell her that you MIGHT consider going home with her if she “doesn’t do anything to screw it up”.

Now there is a key principle behind using this technique. Whenever you implement it, you must have mental congruence where you actually develop that attitude that she truly DOES want you. If you approach every interaction with the attitude that a woman has feelings for you, then it’ll be easy to display a confident and funny attitude around her.

Women love this!

Now if you’re having trouble thinking of what to say, here’s an example:

  • Her:”Well it’s getting late. I think I should get home…”
  • You:”Dude, I’m not that kind of guy. I don’t appreciate your ploy to get me back to your house and trying to take advantage of me.”

What’s funny about this technique is by accuse her of “wanting you”, she’ll actually start to develop these feelings. If you can add this dynamic to other body language and attraction building techniques, you’ll quickly build up some sexual chemistry between you and this woman. Then it’ll be easy to quickly make things more intimate.

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Building Confidence

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Posted by Jacob | Posted on 07-01-2010

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As I mentioned previously that confidence is probably the most important thing when it comes to attracting women. Gaining confidence is simple and once you get some, it will become easier to get more. It’s like a snowball effect.

A change of style or an update of your wardrobe is always a good start, feeling good about how you look will help improve your confidence. Now I’m not asking you to go out and change your style to be a rock star or anything, always be you and don’t pretend to be something you’re not to get the girl. Most people will judge you by the first impression they get of you so looking good is always important.

Hitting the gym will also help improve your confidence and also make you more attractive, so two birds with one stone. Just don’t go to far with this because although women might like a man in good shape getting too big is a bit of a turn off for some women. Plus is never a bad thing to be healthy so I really suggest this if you’re low on confidence or not.

Approaching women is another great way to increase your confidence. This was what I used to help me build my confidence with women, at first this was really difficult as I was shot down a lot, but as time grew on being shot down didn’t really bother me anymore. This is also a great way to practising approaching women and to improve your social skills with women.

Lastly this one might seem a bit drastic but it really helps a lot. Conquer a fear, I don’t mean go and conquer a really big fear like a fear of heights, its much better to start with something small and work your way up to the bigger fears. All of us are afraid to do a lot of things. Going up to really hot girls and public speaking is something I really feared. But starting off small will really lay a good foundation for you to overcome those bigger fears you might have.

Also don’t come across arrogant whatever you do. Arrogance is a fake confidence that insecure guys normally use to make themselves look confident around women. Women see right through this normally, she will see you’re really insecure and not worth the time of day.

Just remember the number 1 thing what attracts women is confidence so put in the effort to build it up and you’ll be well on your way to attracting a better quality women.

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What Attracts Women?

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Posted by Jacob | Posted on 28-12-2009

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What attracts women? I’m sure i’m not the only guy thats asked that question to myself before. I had heard alot of people say that women want a “rich guy” or a “bad boy” well I thought good for them but im neither of those.

I thought to myself there has to be more to attracting women than I thought, so I decided to search the net for some tips and help on picking up women. Well I did’nt really find much at first just aload of rehashed junk I could have been told by a friend. So I dug alittle deaper and came across some interesting tips.

Heres afew of the tips I came across that will help you out:

  • Keep things light when you talk to her, make her laugh but don’t turn into a preforming monkey for a girl. Also don’t go into “interview mode” and start asking her where shes from? what she does for a living? what colour socks shes wearing? etc. This will just bore her and you will lose attraction.
  • Good body language will help you attract women a lot easier, I read somewhere that 90% of communication is done through body language. So having good body language is a must. How do you get good body language? Well it all really comes down to being relaxed and having good posture.
  • Here’s a pretty obvious tip, women love the smell of aftershave on a guy and I don’t mean smell you’ve had a bath in the stuff. A really big turn off for women is a guy that stinks of sweat.
  • Showing value, this doesn’t mean telling a girl you drive a sports car or are a millionaire, women will just see that as showing off. A good way to show value is to have goals, this can be something as small as getting  high grades. As long as you feel you’re valuable then it will show and women will see it.
  • Confidence, this is probably the most import thing when it comes to attracting women. The best way to gain confidence around girls is to not worry about the outcome, but instead look at every encounter, every interaction, every opportunity to interact with girls as play and have fun.

Keep those tips in mind as they’re pretty helpful when it comes to getting girls.

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