Here’s some great videos I found while browsing youtube this morning. It’s alittle long (I think just over 20 minute’s) but this stuff gives out some great in info that will really help you figure out what attracts women.
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Category : Help with Pick Up
Category : What Attracts Women
One problem I see with a lot of guys is that they seem to have low self-esteem. A lot of guys think that some women are out of their league. We all know that gorgeous girls know they’re gorgeous and will flaunt their looks openly. These girls tend to dominate in a relationship and in the majority of cases, if you use regular seduction methods, they may not work and will not take a second look at you.
In reality though no girl is out of any guy’s league, as long as the right attraction methods are put to use. These tips will help when it comes to getting a higher standard of girl and consistently succeed at the same time.
Here’s my top tips:
- You have to turn things around and make girls run after you instead. You have to take them down from their pedestal by not showering them with attention for a change, since this is something that girls have started to crave and expect.
Never look at girls the way other guys do and simply act totally indifferent when you flirt with them. Also, make sure that the flirting is done subtly and with the utmost care.
- It would also be highly essential to ensure that you don’t make girls feel special in any way. As a matter of fact, you need to make girls think that there is something special about you instead and that you are the prize that needs to be won.
You can even take a bold step and show her that she is boring you while showing very little interest in anything she has to offer; however, ensure that you do not offend her too much by doing so. You may think this is crazy, but as time goes by, rapport will build up and girls will start getting curious because you are so different from all the other guys out there.
Category : Flirting
It’s pretty simple. Guys that know how to flirt with a woman effectively are much more likely to have a fulfilling and enjoyable time with their personal lives. If you don’t know how to flirt with women, then the opposite will also be true. You will end up disappointed and frustrated when you don’t end up getting the female attention that you crave and desire for. You might find yourself searching for magic flirting techniques, hoping that they will be the answer to all of your problems with women.
Unfortunately, they rarely exist. On the flip side, though, flirting with a woman is really not that hard at all. Knowing a few simple concepts, you can choose any women that you want, flirt with her, and end up with her hanging by your side. Not a bad spot to be in, wouldn’t you say?
So, how can you learn how to flirt with a woman the right way and leave her feeling hot for you?
Well I made this blog to share with guys what attracts women so let me give you some tips..
Cause controversy with her.
Most guys end up being all too agreeable when they are with a women. Don’t budge if she says something and you think the opposite. One of the worst things that you can do is try to be a man that just nods his head at whatever she says. Show her that you have your own opinion and ideas. More often than not, this will get her attention, as she is not used to this, but also she is being challenged. Women love to be challenged by a man.
Notice the world around you.
Point out what’s going on around you and her. You can easily find things to joke about and share a luagh with a woman, which is ALWAYS a good thing. Also, you get to start to get a good idea on how she thinks about things. Just because she is attractive, does not mean you should not also get to know her as well.
Surprise her by causing sexual tension with a woman.
Of course, this will be a pleasant surprise for her. If you cause sexual tension with a women and make sure that you do it the right way, you can easily get her attention. The fact is, if you want to be more to her than just a friend, you have to cross the line at some point and cause sexual tension with a girl.
Category : Confidence
To most women, a nice guy is to courteous and friendly to be regarded as a potential partner. What women want in their life is someone that doesn’t take crap from nobody and wont back down during a conversation. Basically they want an exciting guy.
I know I know you probably think that being nice to a women will make her attracted to you, but it’s just not true.
And here’s the reason why..
Every girl has a guy in their life who she likes to hang out with and considers him a great friend. But when it comes to taking it a step further, a women won’t want to be with this man because she doesn’t want to ruin their friendship.
It’s true that women want nice guys around them, but they don’t see them as a sexual partner, they just seem them as the nice friendly guy.
To a women, any guy that is too nice and acts like a “doormat” will be regarded as boring and not worth the time to date. Nice guys do nothing to excite a women and that’s the problem.
The bottom line is you should go beyond being a nice guy. Focus on becoming the kind of guy that lives an exciting and interesting life. You should approach every situation with don’t take crap from people especially women.
Now let me be clear here I don’t mean you should start acting like an asshole. Instead focus on being a challenge to women, while keeping your easy going exterior. In other words become the prize which women have to earn. If you stop being the nice guy and work on becoming an exciting guy you’ll see that it’s easy to transform yourself into the kind of guy women want to date. There’s nothing more attractive than a guy that is strong and confident to a woman and sadly nice guys just don’t show women they’re either.
I often stress that originality is the most important quality that you can convey to women, from the way you dress, to how you approach a girl and start a conversation. On the other hand, when you fail to make a unique impression, she’s going to automatically lump you in with the last 29 idiots who tried to talk to her and within three minutes of you paying for her cocktail, she’ll be excusing herself to “go find her friends.”
The key to building a bond with her is to engage her attention and get her to share information about herself. Then you’ll tell her how much you relate and establish rapport with her. One of my favourite ways of doing this is by using cold reads.
This technique, which is used by psychics and palm readers, is a way to make the other person feel like you understand what makes them tick, and what they’re going through, without them telling you. The trick with cold reads is that the “observations” you’re making apply to virtually anyone. Yet there are psychological reasons why they work so effectively.
People are self-centred and we generally accept claims about ourselves that reflect how we wish to be.
Also, people are vain. We want to be seen as unique. Even though Cold Reads are usually vague generalisations which would apply to your sister, just as they would to the hottie in the VIP room at the club, we want to agree with the person who skillfully “reads” us, and we’ll believe they have unusual powers of perception.
So forget about asking the generic “job interview” questions. (“So what’s your name,” “where are you from,” etc.) Get original with your strategy in order to capture her attention and impress her with your charm and confidence.
If I’m in a club, talking to some girl who’s acting hard to get, I’ll use a cold read.
Here’s an example:
- “You know, Andrea, I get the sense that a lot of guys get the wrong idea when they first meet you. They think you’re stand-offish and a bit cold. But you’re actually a lot more sensitive, and funny, than people realize.”
Another example:
- “I get the sense it takes you a while to trust people, because you’ve been hurt before by someone who was really close to you. But the people that do earn your trust, you’re always there for them.”
Or
- “I can tell that you’re someone who usually plays it safe and doesn’t take chances, but sometimes you’ve regretted it because you missed out on an opportunity. But then other times, you’re spontaneous and adventurous, and you do take chances…and that’s when you’ve had some of the best times of your life.”
If she agrees with my “read” and honestly, I’ve never had a women totally disagree, I’ll follow up by telling her that I can relate, because I’m the same way.
This builds a bond between me and her. In order to solidify the bond, I’ll tell a quick story, one that shows how I’m the same type of person.
Here’s another good one:
- “I can tell something has been weighing on your mind. You’re on the verge of making an important decision in your life, aren’t you.”
Pretty much all of us, at any given time, are contemplating a big decision (or one that is big to us, at least). she’ll be surprised and impressed that you knew that about her.
She’ll give you more information about herself and now you’re engaged in a deep, authentic conversation instead of trying to fill awkward silences.
Much of what a cold reader does is simply repeating back what the subject has said. If she affirms that she’s on the verge of making a big decision, you should nod wisely and say, “Yes, that’s right, and you’re really having a hard time with it.”
Act as if you already KNEW what she was going to say!
Some other Cold Reads that work pretty well are:
- “I can tell you have a strong need for others to like and admire you, but you also have a tendency to be critical of yourself.”
- “You’ve got a hidden talent, or a passion, that most people don’t know about, and you want to pursue it, but something is holding you back.”
- “At times, you’re really social and outgoing. But other times, you’re reserved and introverted.”
Once you add Cold Reads to your conversations with women, you’ll get a feel for which ones work best.
This is just one example of an original, thought-provoking conversational tactic.
Category : Help with Pick Up
You would be surprised how obvious some of these signals are but still most men never pick up on them or realise she was interested too late. Why miss out on a good chance to approach a women if shes already attracted to you?
Here’s a small list of IOIs (indicators of interest) that will help you see when shes interested in you and give you the go ahead to approach her.
OK firstly lets start with what she says:
- She tries to end a silence between the two of you.
- She initiates contact with you.
- She wants to find out more about you; ex – Asks about your age/where you’re from/what fragrance you’re wearing/where you got your clothes from.
- Asks if you have a girlfriend. (Told you some of these were pretty obvious)
Now what she does:
- she plays with her hair while shes talking to you.
- You can sense jealousy when you mention another female around her.
- She leans in while talking to you.
- She makes eye contact then smiles at you.
Finally some signals that mean you should be able to get her number atleast pretty darn easily:
- she puts her hand on your leg.
- Trying to grab your attention constantly.
- Licks her lips when talking to you. (Normally a sign she wants you to kiss her)
You might think some of these sound a little stupid but you will be surprised how often you see women giving off these signals around guys. So being able to spot them is a must when your talking to a girl, otherwise how will you be able to see if you’re building attraction with her or heading towards the “lets just be friends” group of guys?
One last thing also. Women will often give off 1 or 2 of these IOIs (indicators of interest) by accident so what you need to do is look out for bursts of them or if shes giving you these signals constantly. So if you see a lot of them then you know shes attracted to you and its time to approach her or start building rapport with her.
Category : What Attracts Women
What attracts women? I’m sure i’m not the only guy thats asked that question to myself before. I had heard alot of people say that women want a “rich guy” or a “bad boy” well I thought good for them but im neither of those.
I thought to myself there has to be more to attracting women than I thought, so I decided to search the net for some tips and help on picking up women. Well I did’nt really find much at first just aload of rehashed junk I could have been told by a friend. So I dug alittle deaper and came across some interesting tips.
Heres afew of the tips I came across that will help you out:
- Keep things light when you talk to her, make her laugh but don’t turn into a preforming monkey for a girl. Also don’t go into “interview mode” and start asking her where shes from? what she does for a living? what colour socks shes wearing? etc. This will just bore her and you will lose attraction.
- Good body language will help you attract women a lot easier, I read somewhere that 90% of communication is done through body language. So having good body language is a must. How do you get good body language? Well it all really comes down to being relaxed and having good posture.
- Here’s a pretty obvious tip, women love the smell of aftershave on a guy and I don’t mean smell you’ve had a bath in the stuff. A really big turn off for women is a guy that stinks of sweat.
- Showing value, this doesn’t mean telling a girl you drive a sports car or are a millionaire, women will just see that as showing off. A good way to show value is to have goals, this can be something as small as getting high grades. As long as you feel you’re valuable then it will show and women will see it.
- Confidence, this is probably the most import thing when it comes to attracting women. The best way to gain confidence around girls is to not worry about the outcome, but instead look at every encounter, every interaction, every opportunity to interact with girls as play and have fun.
Keep those tips in mind as they’re pretty helpful when it comes to getting girls.
